I changed more dippers and fed my child way more than my ex ever thought of. Same holds true for adoption. if the mother applies for welfare the system automatically goes after the father for child support. I love my son in law but dont like him. Morally and ethically maybe but the government should not be mandating how or if someone raises their kid. Recently, firms that specialize in men's divorce have popped up all over. While it is important for them to receive adequate financial support, it is arguably even more essential to have quality time with both Mom and Dad. If you need or want help collecting child support, you may apply for assistance online from the Child Support Division of the Texas Attorney General's Office (OAG), or call the toll-free number (800) 252-8014. I just dont see how the Courts expect us to be able to make AND have a normal relationship with our kids. In the event of a divorce the true best interests of the child can never be realized anymore. 2) Always wear your condoms when having sex. FYI I am a man of anyone was assuming I am a heartless woman. I still sit here penalized with restrictions, garnishments etc when Ive supported my son since before an order ever existed. Child support also assumes the non-custodial parent doesnt spend any money on the child on their own (which we all know is nonsense in most cases). All politicians out there need to read this. regardless of which parent is custodial both have to pay for clothing, beds, groceries, healthcare, other insurances, school incidentals. I just know that I did not create/produce her alone and I shouldnt have to take care of her alone. My child support got lowered to $3.35 because the father is incarcerated for a criminal charges. Maybe one day deadbeat moms will receive equal treatment, but it wont be anytime soon. Reducing and, in some cases, forgiving arrears. Thank you!! There are a lot of valid points being made in this conversation. My ex does not do this, and in the process I find out many things he is interested in. Half of the amount that Mr V is paying would be more than enough to support a great quality of life for his children. Your money is good enough but youre not. you do to the other side of the equation, it remains equal. Its a slippery slope, Im OK if I can keep my income up for next 6-10 years. I fought anyway, and now have a GAL that has equated me with a child abuser in his language and promises to punish me if I dont accept what she is willing to give me. This blows my wife has 400k trust fund her dad pays her13 k to be in a band she has a part timing gig at weight watchers only to make 25 k a minimum here her dad did our taxes for years and he has pumped thousand of dollars over the years as gifted money. All the data points towards it. Not one parent paying all of it including paying back the State for welfare and food stamps the the other parent spent and ate. Imagine a scenario where parents have 50/50 custody, earn equal amounts, therefore being capable of offering the child the same lifestyle at each home. The ex refused to settle after recieving the court finding of fact, and the financial discovery revealing that the ex spent my childs college fund to make a down payment on a house for our child. Try clothing four children pay for extra activities pay for sports pay for field trips snack money shoes school supplies medical expenses! Anyone that thinks Child Support is fare needs to get a grip on reality! Her Honor (sarcasm intended ) has stated that your wife [NOT my children] deserves that money and that she is not going to allow me to become a deadbeat dad. I am not a perfect parent, but I could never treat my kids this way. I dont care if you are a man, you would be ordered to be tested. What business it is of the states to decide how and where your child is raised. EXPECTING women to be feminists is the problem. I am literally having to take food from my work to eat. HERE IN SC, THEY GO ACCORDING TO YOUR INCOME AND HE MAKES MORE THAN ENOUGH, AND YET MAYBE MAKE A PAYMENT EVERY 2-3MONTHS. Divorce game plan for women. (That will both benefit the child and parents and stop these money hungry people from using children as bait) so if I have to pay 500 per month she has to pay 250 to 500 per month. My son-in-law lived with me for 12 years and I took care of their children. My sons mom agreed that this amount was absurd and that the back pay (arrears) was ridiculous and stated she would clear it up. While I try to build up time spent with her mom. I have to save for a month to be able to take them to a movie. I would come home after 16 hrs of work to be bombarded with kids being hungry. Plus, check out their power-packed Legal Tips page for all parents fighting family court, too Wow!! THAT IS WHAT ALIMONY WAS MADE FOR; one parent receives pay to sustain themselves long enough to develop a means of self-support, while the other parent uses their ESTABLISHED SOURCE OF INCOME to support the children in totality. I dont think a woman has the right to force fathers to pay for everything alone just because they have given birth. They are both under the mistaken impression that custodial parents (NOT their children) are entitled to child support payments. In addition to the Child Support I also pay entirely for their medical, cell phones/tablets (Just to be able to keep in touch with them) and vacations when they come out to visit during the summer (While still paying child support that entire time). NONE OF THEM WANT A CHANGE! Why is everything focused on the father paying Im a single dad of 3 she left me with the kids and when I took child support out on her the paperwork basically only asks about the father its a sexist system today it seems more men are being the ones raising the kids and still getting shafted by the system its been 4 years since she left she doesnt call or even text the kids she wont pay a dime and Im pretty sure she never will and the system wont do anything about it because she is female things need to change about this system its definitely not the same as it used to be. There needs to be something much more child specific. I have had custody of her since she was born. Work hard, get a better job and you wont have to worry about it. (I live in Florida if that helps) they may have an unofficial agreement that hasnt been brought to court (Im not exactly sure about that) im Afraid that if my dad stops paying the support than my mom will try to bring it to court and do something crazy. But the balance of evidence points to a. Im sorry, but I dont believe your story for a second. Im not lonely on the holidays. A woman can do anything a man can do, right? When accusations of substance abuse are levelled against a party during the course of litigation, drug and alcohol tests are MANDATORY in order to prove or disprove said accusations. He had the other 7 women on the show, but me. So that must be all the women then. It doesnt matter who cheated. She did not cheat on her husband as he says. Im just trying to learn more about the situation. Its going over the top to accommodate non- custodial parents for no other reason than they are biologically linked to a child. . Because its NOT. Making one family suffer so lawyers and judges can pad their pockets and the other parent can sit on their butt is criminal. And she saved none of the child support for the childs future, including college education. I have full custody . The mortality rate is three times as much sorry even womens mortality rate on the job is no better. Spoken like someone who expects someone else to foot the bill. There must be no good men because 90% of custody cases are awarded to women. Thats half my take home too! I am a single mom of 4 (raised and on their own). I tried to get food stamps so I could afford groceries, but I was denied because she has a food stamp case open. My wife has all these programs she has to do an they say she still has to go find work so there saying ahes not allowed to sleep cause she has appoinments everyday of the week an then her daughter on the weekends. Perhaps you should explore real parenting and relationship building instead of complaining about unfair laws that dont exist. Guess who makes it up? Dont you see what is happening? The third was an elderly man who when asked what he was doing with his time since he was out of work, he replied, sittin up at the house, $300 perge, 30 days. In one well-publicized case, a father in Michigan objected to child support payments when his ex-partner gave birth after knowing he did not want children. If child support didnt exist then the parent that wanted to be there for the kid would be. Its like I know that I have to get up and work harder so my kids can have what they want. So i asked another question that my daughter turned 18 in feburary and it states that if a child fails to or does not attempt to further education that child support stops when 18, The answer i got do you have proof Really!!!! My ex was a gold digger narcissistic type. Guess she doesnt know they go off my $$$ not hers. Unlike the female, he has no escape route. This means that a judge can still order child support even if both parents state they do not need it. Two years later the welfare system made her produce a father because you can ONLY be. I got the full scene on video and got it online for divorce proof later on. So what can we do??? Pass the word.I know I am not the only one come forward. The father is really glad that you made it a priority to give sole custody to the mother just because she is a woman. Him, not their mom who receives the cs. Unfair child support guidelines. Her full intention on marrying him was do live on his salary. Im currently 13 and although Im young, I know what goes on with child support agreements. That will eat up $750 a month, by itself. The old chestnut. Lots of good dads like myself are being chastised, judged and criticized as if we are deadbeat fathers. Once she began to work she stated she wanted to be more independent and took our child out of state to move back home to live with her parents. The mom or the taxpayers, so stop complaining and say thank you to the other people who pay to raise your children. The SYSTEM IS BROKEN!! When youre young and not knowledgeable about law, U.S. policies and your states pros/cons for single fathers trying to get rights to their child. She chooses to live with her parents and work a bs job collecting my money each week instead. You should consider how the father daughter relationship was during those two first years. Simply, it's an attack on the nature of a father's freedom and how he best wishes to raise and support . The mother of the child filed for child support with false information and with no time sharing agreement in place, my bf got screwed. All it took, was one argument, and Ive had CSS on my back ever since. I have had constant visitation with my oldest daughter for 6 years now and have always made child support payments the whole time. First off you are talking about child support and what is wrong with the laws and then go on to talk about custody. Making physical contact with another person in a harmful or offensive manner is a crime. Pray for strength and be glad you will never have to look your child in the eye and explain why you didnt try. Im really glad you made it a priority for dad to get his 50% custody. That is the lie the court and its band of merry thieves in the Support Collections Unit tell non-custodial parents who most often happen to be fathers. After the deductions come out of my check (60%) and I pay my bills I am left with $360 a month for gas, groceries, and entertainment for the kids. My wife decided to have an affair and marry the guy. The government helped to create child support when they initiated the welfare system (TANF). Not all of us men are the same. I had to apply for snap/TANF. This lady is a classic example of someone who abuses and takes advantage of the system and the courts do nothing. A targeted individual, whether the alienation targets an adult sibling or a co-parentas well as judges, lawyers, mental health professionals, and other family membersmust be knowledgable . Should we be shocked that we are in the same position on the game board two years later? Thats a laugh. Feels great doesnt it? Not to mention she has a college education and substitute teaching certificate I work construction so my hours dont reflect yearly pay. Then I got supervisor rights. Instead of measuring child support compliance as the gross amount of money collected, the courts should use a self-support reserve (like Delaware does) to determine the percentage of parents (with the means to do so) who are sharing the responsibility for providing for their childrens needs. If fathers are young, they may have no means of providing financial support to the mother or child. Work for new husband for free. My son is now 12 i never asked nore put my sons father on child support all i asked of him is to be there for hes son and buy him clothes and shoes and any school needs . If I didnt find a roommate in time I would owe a lot of money. His salary was $2800/mo before taxes. Introducing the Unfairness of Child Support for Fathers: A Closer Look Child support is an issue that has been under the microscope for decades. And the court in Arkansas doesnt care at all that we have 6 children now. Im Im nor cal. I am agoraphobic now. But they dont care. The system sucks! . The arrearage was from a few years period back in the early 2000s that I was unemployed, as I was laid off from my aviation job after the 9/11 attack, when the airline industry went into a slump. Having the higher earner shoulder more of the financial responsibility, just because they can makes little senseespecially when they are ones who see the child the least! Child Support Enforcement can be a tool to ensure those dads (and moms) who voluntarily decide not to support their children are forced too, but these laws need to be revamped significantly. We are going to have to take it. Also the my ex didnt let me see my son for the until now I havent seen him. Good luck. BTW my ex comes from a very wealthy family. . HELL NO!! It is mind boggling to me that these people think it costs so little to care for children. If dads are the primary parent- i.e. The only reason I say that is the reason I even saw your post. If money is the most important thing when it comes to raising a child then we should give custody to the parent who makes the most money. You shouldve taken pictures of those. Gets paid straight cash, and has since 1997. There is even less basis for fears realated to childrens well being one education and job levels are controlled for. My retirement is 75k. Her Honor was not happy that someone without a law degree proved her wrong. The one that does live with me costs me $900 a month. No matter what the circumstances are a parent should pay child support and the child should live a life style which they have become accustomed to. Men have complete control. Example my husband pays support for a child which is half of his income. Join forces and demand reform!!! I do not keep our daughter away from him or his family; I have, however, stopped being the person to make arrangements for her to see any of them. Her mom just moved the new guy in and doesnt value my daughter and my relationship. We see her once a month (3-4 days each month usually. CT allows parents to TPR for no ongoing relationships Well thats not fair. Allot of the people in this situation get Taniff and food stamps etc on to of the child support and do not want to work. Ive been alienated for years and have had essentially no Parenting Time. Here's how you can give Black fathers a better chance in court. I think both parents should have to work and if the parent with custody has infant they shouldnt have to work until the child starts school then starts both parents haveing jobs and i think the custodial parent should have to show receipts of where the CHILD SUPPORT goes to the the children like light bill rent water if ya have to pay for such and heating if not wood heat a/c is a luxury not a necessity fans cool just fine also no car payments cause less face it people theres always public transportation that will take you anywhere you need to go and there are goverment assited phones so ya dont need an 800 dollar iphone or what ever anyway thats just my take on things O one more thing if its court order that you payand have visitation ever other weekend well dangit custodial parents stick to the LAW and if a child moves out before turning 18 dont lie and keep collecting child support for that child also a LAW i think its called fraud theift embezzlement or something im sure its nit good and could lead to prison if you still accepted the money for o i dont know 3 years and didnt let the person paying the child support see their children which was court ordered okay i think im done STUPID CHILD SUPPORT. My ex has erased me from my daughters lives. Why not suspend child support as punishment!? Parents may pay support through the OAG by different methods, including online and through a wage withholding. There are questions when you go from making $26 an hour to making $10 an hour, many dads do that intentionally to lessen the amount of child support the ex gets, usually out of bitterness. We are now divorced and I 1400/month in support. I fought, but basically was told that it would be unlikely. Any advice would be appreciated. we have a 4 years old daughter in which I was still supporting until I left the house. Sounds like someone doesnt want to admit whats really going on, but wants to place all the blame on the ex. That is the only time the best individual interest of any child forced to live with whom they are told to live with will ever be met. Common excuses for avoiding support payments include inability to pay, lack of accountability for the money, unwillingness to have the child in the first place, to protest visitation agreements, or a personal conviction that the amount of the award is unfair. Having children is. Quite honestly, if the custody was more level, my daughter would actually see the child support money forked over to go spend foolishly. if parents agree on extra circular activities than both need to pay for it. Child support laws are designed to keep the noncustodial father/mother in a financial decay, as if they are the ones who are responsible for the child and divorce. Laugh Maniacally. KIDNAPPER. The one whom receives Child Support receives it Tax Free. Increasing access and visitation. That is not the case for most of the others out there. Now he is going to court in a few days to show why he isnt in contempt of court and our 10 month old baby may have to see her father go to jail because of this corrupt system!!! It doesnt work like that in Missouri. I feel for the mothers out there that get only 100.00 a month. My ex lived off child support alone for a few months, after she was fired. But goes to Vegas and Cancun all the time.. and when he takes the kid , he makes him babysit so he and his new wife can go and get drunk on a bar and party. We receive not one dime of help through cse or fed gov. Our child support attorneys at Pittsburgh Divorce & Family Law, LLC see incorrect and unfair child support arrangements all the time. With this being said it shouldnt matter if you remarried and had more children or lost your job the child you are paying for still needs support. Just because its a law, doesnt mean its right. These are just some things that need attention. Believe me, they are NOT the primary caregivers of the kids when they do have them. And all this putting them in jail a day or two for non support m back support is their own fault they had these children and know they are court appointed to pay to help support them they should know they must get and keep a job . it is three times more deadly for a man to spend any given year supporting his children on the job than it is for the mother in that same years time to ever have a pregnancy to the birth or for the mother to have an abortion. These are just some of the most troubling issues men and fathers face in today's society, according to Dr. Gordon Finley, a professor of psychology at Florida International University who researches fatherhood and divorce. I made all the mistakes. It is not about bitterness The curry court system is one sided. He started paying support to hey prior to an order. Rose, stop ur man bashing cause that isnt a sign of good parenting on ur part. In my case, I am owed 30k plus in child support from the last 10 plus years. Like others of you, I take good care of my child, and will continue to do so. Exactly, or even unequal time if that is what works better at time; u can always change up if needed. And make sure you request a jury at the hearing its your constitutional right. I do feel its important that my daughter spends an equal amount of time with both parents, but now Ive come to discover that she maybe hitting her boyfriend in the face just as she did with me when she got mad. So now I am saddled with child support even though I want the kids 100% of the time and shell out 5-6 grand a year on flights ect.,. (UPDATED) As Johns Hopkins University sociologist Kathryn Edin explained to Graham, the traditional roles of mothers and fathers have changed dramatically since the 1970s, but the laws are still stuck in the past. I was raised with the notion that if you dont set expectations that anticipate some results, then dont be shocked when the output is shabby. My dad was a terrible husband but was a great father. Which means, even if the husband knows that the kid is not from him, he is bound to pay maintenance. Absolutely right.. Im kinda in the same boat, but Im not going to be a slave or indentured servant: Im going to take my life before that happens. In practice, the judge tends to . Oh, The Horror. But this welfare queen who remarried some low income Asian guy had two more kids of course claims zero income during the DCSS court case to go after max amount of my salary. Just cause I make more I have to pay 70% of summer camp, after school care, and now she wants tutoring cause our child supposedly has adhd. I raised my daughter essentially by myself, I was a stay at home father and her and I were with each other every day. New laws need to be passed in child support. 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